Like I said last year, I don’t like to make resolutions. But I do like to look back at the previous year and figure out ways I moved forward in my life — I don’t like feeling stagnant. So here’s what I think about when I think back to 2013:

+ Mom. I don’t want to write more about her here, but Mom’s illness and death overshadowed the year. That obviously isn’t moving forward, but I can’t think about 2013 and not think about her. That’s all I’m really going to say.

+ Work. As I said last year, I took a significant promotion at work — that actually went into effect last January, so I spent all of 2013 learning the ropes. I’ve heard somewhere (heck if I know where) that it takes about a year to really feel like you know what you’re doing at a new job. Well, my current position had a pretty steep learning curve, but I had the advantage of moving into the job from somewhere else on the same team, which helped. I still occasionally feel in over my head, but that’s increasingly rare, and I no longer feel like I’m drowning. So: progress was made, and hopefully more will be made this year.

+ Housekeeping stuff. Anyone who saw my bedroom as a kid (uh, or in college) is probably laughing right now, because I am the worst at anything involving cleaning and it has always shown. I don’t even register clutter; when I look at a room, my gaze slides right past it. So you can imagine the struggle it’s been for me and SisterRoomie, as grown ups, to keep our apartment from collapsing under the sheer weight of mess.

At some point, I stumbled on Unfuck Your Habitat and read it for a few months. I never managed to do all of its challenges (or even many of them), but the little-bit-at-a-time mentality has made a huge difference. If nothing else, it got me into the habit of actually doing my dishes every night (and I loathe doing dishes), and that makes keeping the kitchen clean about a bajillion times easier. Who knows, maybe 2014 will be the year I finally start making my bed. (Probably not, though.)

+ I got back in touch with a number of old friends during 2013. I have a hard time staying in touch and after enough time passes I psych myself out of getting back in touch, and then eventually convince myself it’s no big deal. But the fact of the matter is, there were people in my life who used to mean a great deal to me and I hadn’t spoken to in years. Now I’ve seen or at least chatted with some of them, and remember why they were important to me. Having rekindled some of these friendships, I’d really like to not fall back into old patterns again this year.

+ Yoga. I started going to weekly classes in the spring. I am… not very good. Luckily, the point isn’t to be very good. Anyway, for all I fall out of almost every balance pose repeatedly, I did manage to balance on my hands for a few breaths last month. That was awesome.

+ Writing. Lots happened on that front in 2013, including joining a writing group and semi-successful revisions of a major project. Hopefully it’ll set the stage for a lot more to come in 2014. We’ll see, anyway.

+ I turned 30. That’s not really an accomplishment, except that I’m still here and kicking. If I learned anything in 2013, it’s that that is no small thing.

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